When I got pregnant, my partner and I knew we wanted to be thoughtful about the ways we helped our kids construct their gender and the way they viewed gender in general. Whatever sex our baby was born, we had every intentions of gender-bending the hell out of it.Yeah, great idea. Many years ago, my wife and I attended a class on identifying child sexual abuse in Southern California. Over lunch, we talked with a woman whose husband was raised by a woman who really had wanted a daughter. So when her son was growing up, she dressed her son in girl's clothes, bought him girl toys (like Barbies), and painted his nails. Dad was a macho Marine, and had no idea why hsi son was such a little pansy. (I think he was away a lot of deployments.)
Now, her husband had decided that he really would be more comfortable as a woman. His pastor, of course, thought that this was a good idea.
Gee, do you think the mother's gender-bending might have done him some harm?